We all have them, though not all of us are able to admit to them! Once we are able to identify our fears then we have to ask ourselves are we ready to conquer them? Until we make a concise decision to make a positive change in our life we are unable to move forward in a healthy direction.
Many people suffer greatly form the fear of REJECTION. This is very common in 90% of the single male population. With the fear of rejection comes shyness as well. Think about it why does that shy person sit alone in the corner at a party…they are afraid if they talk to someone it will only result in yet another rejection. Most people who suffer from the fear of rejection have a very hard time meeting new people and do not often put themselves in social situations where they can meet new people.
Some people suffer from the fear of INTIMACY. Not intimacy in the physical sense but in the emotional sense. It is a fear of letting someone close to their heart. This usually stems from a previous bad relationship and essentially is a fear of BEING HURT. Most people who suffer from this fear of intimacy tend to keep others at arms length therefore never allowing anyone to get to know the person they are inside. People who have this fear of intimacy tend fall into the next fear as well…
The fear of COMMITMENT is one in which a person can be dating someone special but they are always keeping their eyes open for something better to come along. Ultimately the other person in the relationship spots this after several attempts to take the relationship to a higher level which typically ends the relationship right then and there. A person with the fear of commitment typically loses what may have been their greatest love. This person makes me want to scream “open your eyes!”
Many people suffer also from a fear of BEING ALONE. These are people who stay in bad relationships or relationships that will never go far. They seek comfort in others even though they may not truly be in love. They tend to be in love with the idea of being in love and not in love with the person they are with. They jump from one relationship to the next and typically fall for the very first person that pays them a little bit of attention.
Sometimes all we need to do to conquer these fears is recognize them. Looking back at past relationships and establishing patterns can be a great mental exercise. If we don’t learn from our mistakes we are condemned to repeat them. Making a commitment to yourself that you are willing to face and conquer these fears is the first step to finding and attracting the right person for you!
I believe in speaking the truth out loud because when you do, you can truly help people! Fear is temporary, regret is forever…
What are some of your fears?
Denise Paravate is a professional matchmaker with 13 years experience in the dating service industry and is known as Miss MatchMaker. Ms. Paravate owns and operates MatchMaker International in Destin, FL. Her philosophy is simple: Give dating and relationships the same degree of thoughtfulness, time and effort you would give your career OR surround yourself with a team of experts to define and implement your dating and relationship goals. Then put your time and energy into developing and projecting the best version of who you truly are and you will always come out a winner. When you’re armed with the right attitude and strategies you will have more energy, feel better about yourself, and most importantly you will meet and keep the woman or man you deserve.
Denise Paravate authors a blog with insightful tips and advice at http://www.MissMatchMaker.net. For more information about MatchMaker International in Destin, FL please visit her web site at http://www.MatchMakerGulfCoast.com.
Dating Coach, Relationship Coach/Expert & Professional Matchmaker